This story comes to us from Marilyn Fournet. We feel your pain, longing and heartache. It's also great to know that your husband is in a very good place receiving quality care.
I cared for my husband at home until I moved here to Oxford, where I could put him in the VA Home here. Although it was very stressful and though I ended up with pneumonia because I was so run down, I still resisted parting with him. He gets good care at the home though and I live a short distance away, so I see him frequently. He talks a lot and we can't carry on a real conversation, but I can still make him laugh and he still knows me. They do the best they can with their patients. Those in his ward a nearly all World War II veterans and they are treated with respect. The activity director has sing-alongs and she provides simple games like hitting a ball back and forth. But even though I feel very fortunate to have him there, I often cry all the way home because it's so difficult seeing him like he is and remembering how he was. I still miss him. My heart goes out to other caretakers. I know how hard it can be to see a loved one slipping away from you. Alzheimer's is a terrible disease.